Do you want to last longer during sex? If you do, how long should sex last? Is great sex equals to long sex? Does lasting longer mean only lasting longer inside her?
How Long Should Sex Last?
According to various studies done by sex researchers in the US and Canada, the average time for sexual intercourse is 5 to 7 minutes. As this is only an average, what is the ideal or optimal time depends very much on the couple. According to a research published in the Journal Of Sexual Medicine, the amount of time for sexual intercourse (not counting foreplay) ranges from 3 minutes to 13 minutes. Very few people can go longer than 12 minutes. Both young men and older men are likely to have more difficulties in having long sex.
The medical method of determining premature ejaculation is called intravaginal ejaculatory latency time (IELT), a stopwatch-timed duration measured from the beginning of vaginal penetration until ejaculation occurs. Any IELT that is less than 2 minutes is medically defined as premature ejaculation or rapid ejaculation. Premature ejaculation is the most common form of sexual dysfunction in younger men and it affects around 20% to 30% of men (all ages). This shows that most people's sex lives are not as exciting as other people think they are.
Yet this quantitative measure of premature ejaculation does not tell the whole story. There are men who ejaculate within a minute but say they do not have premature ejaculation. On the other end of the spectrum, there are men who are able to last for 20 minutes and they say they do have premature ejaculation. In other words, the definition of 'premature' may largely be in the mind of the beholder and depends on a man's sexual satisfaction and his perception of his ability to control when ejaculation occurs.
Is Great Sex Equals To Long Sex? Does Lasting Longer Mean Only Lasting Longer Inside Her?
It depends on what is your definite of sex. The time people devote to doing sexual things (loosely defined as foreplay) can last from a few minutes, to several hours, or even a whole day! The actual duration for sexual intercourse will often last from vaginal penetration until ejaculation.
But if you broaden the definition of sex to include seduction, foreplay and intercourse, the whole event can stretch to about an hour. There is no real ideal amount of time for the whole event to be satisfying to a woman. Because every woman is different; some can reach orgasm fast while others need a bit more time and effort.
In cases of a female who is quick to orgasm, 10-15 minutes of sexual activity is usually all she needs. This means you do not necessarily have to go for about an hour to satisfy a woman. For every 30 minutes of sex, only one-quarter to one-third of the time should be spent on actual intercourse (penis-in-vagina). This will leave plenty of time for the other things (foreplay) she likes you to do to her - kissing, cuddling, fondling, touching, erotic massage, oral sex, mutual stimulation, etc. If you can focus on pleasuring her, this will distract your attention away from this preoccupation over the duration of sex.
Whether it is 5 minutes or 7 minutes, it does not matter at all. If you are having a good sex life and can talk honestly to your partner from time to time about sex and any issues that arise, you should not be too concerned with 'how long is long enough'. It is never about quantity because it is all about quality. Time is not the sole determinant for pleasure. If you are not enjoying sex and it is over too quickly, then you should work together with your partner or by yourself, to look for ways to overcome this issue. Do not allow yourself to lead a life of quiet frustration and resentment over sexual issues.
How To Cope With Premature Ejaculation
Here are a few things you can try -
(1) Practice the start-and-stop technique exercise
This is done by stimulating the penis until you are just about to ejaculate, then stop the stimulation for a while until arousal decreases and resume the stimulation. You gradually increase the number of start-and-stop action to 6 times before ejaculation in your subsequent practices. The key is to get used to the intense stimulation with the aim to give you greater control over when you want to ejaculate.
(2) Squeeze the penis tip
During intercourse when you are about to ejaculate, you pull out and apply pressure to the tip of the penis for a few seconds to allow the arousal to subside and then you enter her again. This method is rather disruptive to me.
(3) Pulling the scrotal sack
During intercourse when you are about to ejaculate, you (or your partner) will gently pull the top of your scrotal sack to delay your orgasm so as to win you some more minutes.
(4) Reducing penile sensation
To dull the sensitivity of the penis, you use double condoms or apply anesthetic creams or anesthetic sprays to the tip of the penis. This can sometimes cause numbness of the penis which reduces sexual pleasure.
(5) Counseling
This is done by using therapies (cognitive behavioral therapy, psycho-dynamic therapy, couples therapy, hypnotherapy) to enhance sexual communication and knowledge, address intimacy and conflict issues, low self-esteem and performance anxiety.
(6) Medication
You can either take pills orally or to get an injection directly to the side of the penis. When resorting to pills, you should go directly to a doctor or a licensed pharmacy because the (life-threatening) risks of purchasing fake drugs (which are usually cheaper) from online sites are very high.
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